to Attract Quality Relationships
by Sandra Anne Taylor Westlake, OH
whats the secret to finding quality love? Believe it or not, the
answer is in modern science and its all about energy your
energy! Quantum physics shows that everything and everybody projects real
energetic frequencies that move out from us into the Universe. Each one
of us is like a little radio station, broadcasting subtle but very real
signals about ourselves. And it is this process that is actually the source
of your relationship destiny. People who have the same kind of energy
that we do will be the ones who "tune into" us and be drawn
into our lives, for better or for worse!
This is true for all types of relationships and experiences, but it is
especially true for romance. Love is a river of vibrations that moves
through the Universe and through every heart in it. In fact, there are
nearly 80 million singles in America alone, all of them hoping to connect
in some way or another.
But if you are like most people, you are looking for more than just a
mere connection, more than a temporary fling. What most of us want is
a quality relationship, a person who will be supportive and caring, not
just for a night, but for a lifetime. No matter what you have been through
in the past, this kind of love is absolutely achievable. But it must first
be achieved within.
Your relationship destiny depends on your own energy, so you have to first
look to yourself to see what kind of energies you are broadcasting. Are
the signals you are sending to yourself the kind you want to receive from
another? If not, they must be changed!
The Laws of Attraction are strict. You cannot send out waves of negative
energy, and expect to attract only the positive treatment in return. Your
treatment from others comes directly from your treatment of yourself.
For example, if you are constantly criticizing yourself, it is very likely
that you will magnetize a man who is willing to criticize you also. Is
that what you really want in your life?
The biggest source of "stuff" that we send out can be found
in our thoughts and beliefs. This is actually very liberating because,
while we may not be able to do much about our looks, we always have the
option to change the way we think. For this reason, it will be very important
to start to become aware of the types of thoughts and beliefs that you
engage in every day.
Write some of your thoughts down. Make sure you are honest with yourself.
Do you support and encourage yourself? If you do not, dont expect
a partner to do so! Do you really accept yourself and believe that you
are valuable? If not, why should anyone else?
The single most important factor in the energy you broadcast to the world
can be found in your self-talk. There is no room for self- judgment in
the mind of someone who is looking for a true quality love. If you want
to attract a partner that is loving and respectful in the way he treats
you, you must first create that energy in the way you treat yourself.
If you want someone who is always there for you, you must first make the
choice to be always there for yourself.
Therefore, investigate your beliefs and thought patterns thoroughly. It
is well worth it because it will not only change the love you attract,
it will affect all the consequences of your life. Do you tend to worry
and fret about all sorts of things? If so, you will not only attract a
fearful partner, but even more situations in your life of which to be
afraid. Are you passive and submissive? Then you will either attract a
wimp of a partner or one who is aggressive and overbearing and who seeks
to gain his power through you!
For another to find you valuable, you must look into the mirror and see
your own value there. No matter what you may see on the surface, you are
a valuable and valid person, one who can bring joy to another if you begin
to see the joy in yourself. In fact, this is the highest, most attractive
frequency you can project to the world, an appreciation of yourself and
your life, and optimism about your future.
Whatever you do, never get desperate over finding love. Desperation is
a sure-fire energy killer. It will either push people away, or draw only
desperate people to you. If that happens, the joy that you are seeking
in the relationship will only turn to misery. Be patient and work on a
strong, positive perception of yourself. Trust in your ability to create
happiness for yourself, and then choose to do it everyday! This turns
your desperation into determination, that works for you, not against you.
Remember that old definition of insanity: To do the same old things in
the same old ways and still expect different results. If you seem to have
suffered the same types of relationship problems over and over again,
you need to take action within yourself. You need to look at the ways
that you negate and dismiss yourself. Intervene at every opportunity,
and make a conscious effort to create acceptance and respect for the valuable
person you really are.
It is never too late to attract a great love, and never too late to make
all your relationships better. Take responsibility for yourself and your
life. Create a life full of happiness, and your own happy energy will
attract more in return. You deserve a quality love, and it will appear
as if by magic when you finally choose to bring quality love to yourself!
©2005, Sandra Anne Taylor.
Sandra Anne Taylor has been a counselor in private practice for 25
years, and authored the book Secrets of Attraction. She also co-founded
Starbringer Associates, a speaker and consultant agency that produces
and distributes audio and video materials promoting energetic approaches
to healing on all levels. Her in-depth, 9 CD audio seminar, Act to Attract,
is the first comprehensive program applying quantum physics to the romantic
relationship. Visit: www.starbringerassociates.com
or call 440-871-5448.