Maintaining a Magical Relationship During Stressful Times
by Ariel and Shya Kane

Whether you are happy in your relationship, experiencing some bumpiness with your partner or are somewhere in between, life’s circumstances can pose challenges to having your relationship be healthy and strong. Currently, one of the biggest stressors for many people is money and the unstable state of the economy. It is easy to get caught up in the current of worry and fear and you may feel the repercussions of this creeping into your relationship. If so, below are some tips, based on our approach of Instantaneous Transformation, to support you in staying centered and reconnecting with your partner.

1. Don't panic, breathe:
You are equipped to deal with whatever comes up in your life in each moment. You are not equipped to deal with hypothetical futures, which is what worrying is all about. Breathing automatically brings you back into the moment, calms and centers you.

2. Don't be embarrassed to reach out:
Our cultural and genetic heritage has been one of cooperation for millions of years and this conflicts with the current idea of "being independent". You don't have to prove how strong you are and that you can do it on your own. It will be a much easier journey if you realize you are not traveling this road alone.

3. Realize that what you resist will persist and grow stronger:
If you focus on the downturn in the economy, you will get stuck there and won't have a life. (This is the First Principle of Instantaneous Transformation.)

4. Recognize that no two things can occupy the same space at the same time:
You can engage in drama and the fear of the future or make a commitment to taking care of what is right in front of you: one will upset and disturb you and the other will ground and center you. You can either put your attention on your fears or on taking care of the people and things around you. (This is the Second Principle of Instantaneous Transformation.)

5. Operate as if being consumed with the country's economic downturn is not a problem but rather a symptom of not being fully engaged in your life:
Often when people are unsure of what to do next in life or they are not going about activities with totality, they replay old thoughts, much in the same way a screen saver on a computer will appear after a period of inactivity.

6. Start handling those incompletions in your life and your worries will become manageable or even disappear:
If you paint the kitchen, change the light bulbs, wash the dishes etc, and really be there while you are doing even the smallest of activities, you'll be back in the flow of your life and a stronger version of yourself. This will empower you to tackle even the most challenging of circumstances.

When you are off center and out of sorts with your partner, you can use these tips as building blocks to reconstruct a happy, healthy, loving way of relating.  This way, your relationship can become an asset in your life, rather than a liability.

Since 1987, internationally acclaimed authors, seminar leaders, and business consultants Ariel and Shya Kane have acted as guides, leading people through the swamp of the mind into the clarity and brilliance of the moment. Their best-selling book How to Create A Magical Relationship: The 3 Simple Ideas that will Instantaneously Transform Your Love Life was a Nautilus Book Award winner. To find out more about the Kanes, their NYC seminars, radio show or email newsletter, visit: TransformationMadeEasy.com.