A lot of people are leaving right now, creating a lot of suffering for those left behind, and for the amount of time preceding the loss. You would think that with all the times we have experienced death in our own past lives, observed death of others and heard or read of multitudes of people leaving this earth—pets, animals and household plants—we would have understood the meaning of it, the essence of it, the grace in it by now. But we have not. We, for the most part, dread it, because we don’t understand the basis of life, the basics of living here in this realm called Planet Earth. To that I would like to offer some clarity, and hopefully, solace for the purpose and process of passing.
We are not wholly constituted beings, in that we are, as many know by now from quantum physics, hardly physical at all. We are constitutionally, blobs of energy held together by a thought of who we are, what we’re here for and what we’ll do in our short or long “lifetimes.” We are able to feel our surroundings because we are a part of our surroundings—the other blobs that make up the props within our own personal universe: people, places, things. We are “born” to flesh by inhabiting the blob made by our mothers during pregnancy, that are programmed to have us appear a certain way: hair and eye color, stature and gender. This blob which we call our body houses our personality. Our personality is the manifestation of our accumulated understandings and knowledge of how our world works and our inclinations, which reflect the number of times we have taken on a body and lived a life—in sum, our soul age. We have different personalities over time, which drive us ultimately toward learning to be kind, compassionate, truthful and completely self-aware, aware that our “self” is not of one, but of All.
We have to die to end the story of a given life. Sometimes it appears to happen too soon or too quickly, upsetting everyone around us, and sometimes the story seems to drag on way too long. Suffice it to say, the end of our life story comes in agreement with both our body and our soul. We may not know that we are finished with our life lessons in a given lifetime when the end approaches, consciously, but inside, we know.
We can negotiate with our soul when our bodies are shutting down, and begin a new set of life lessons, a new “life” which is demonstrated most obviously in the celebrated “near death experiences” or NDEs, but also more quietly, in sudden improbable remissions. These choices are real, as anything is possible, but I have to say, ending a life affords an opportunity to take a break between lives, assess one’s progress as a soul and design another set of experiences here. Nothing is lost by death. It gives us the ability to begin anew—many, many times with the same people we lived and interacted with in the life we are leaving.
How do we get comfortable with the process of dying? It looks awful and we appear to suffer terribly during its course. I can say, that when you’re in that process, not fully aware of your surroundings, you are not actually in your body. Your “personality” or conscious self, moves out and hovers over the body and waits to completely exit. The body is separate from your “personality.” Your personality can move out of the blob of energy that is the body and into the outer energy field. Some see this phenomenon as observing a glittery presence above the body. The body may be groaning or shaking or aching as it shuts down, but “you” are not aware of it when you are out of the body. Only when you decide to go back into the body do you take on those sensations.
My Mother when she was at the end of her life, was groaning, her face tight and miserable, with her eyes closed. My sisters and I were sitting around her, concerned, wondering if another dose of morphine was required. I was drawn upward to the sparkly cloud of energy above her head and I spoke to her, “Phyllis, let the process happen. You’re okay.” She opened her eyes, quieted, and looked deeply into mine. She hadn’t opened her eyes for days. Her dark eyes were calm and childlike. She closed them again and she remained quiet until she passed later that afternoon. My sisters were aghast by that interaction. They didn’t understand it. At the time, I didn’t either, I just knew to say those things. Now, I do.
How can we be calm and accept all the death occurring around us, and the fact that we, too, may be at risk of passing? To this I say, each person who experiences the dying process is experiencing it for a purpose. It is the end of their story for this particular time. It is not the end of them as souls. They will begin anew, perhaps to repeat their lives that they just left, or come in as a pet or a new child, or go to another place, another family group to do the lesson plan under different circumstances (different props). We all cycle through many lives and experience many deaths, which are not, at the soul level, awful. I have personally seen and experienced many of mine.
I don’t mean to say that it’s not traumatic for the rest of us left behind. We are the ones who suffer emotionally the loss of life, but in suffering, we gain compassion for others’ losses, understand others’ pain, which is the whole reason we are alive.
Annette Goggio, MPH, holds graduate and undergraduate degrees in the health sciences. Her practice in energy medicine is based on the teachings of Dixie Yeterian and Donna Eden of Eden Energy Medicine. Ms. Goggio offers a suite of services including hands-on and distant healing, life counselling, and numerology. To learn more please visit: www.aquantummoment.com. Her recent book, Healing: A Conversation, provides readers with a framework for understanding life purpose and the education of the soul.